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A Year - what I learnt from the past 243 days.

Updated: Sep 2

If you know me, you’ll know that I love to celebrate my birthday, I have a passion for health and wellness, I am a spiritual seeker and I cherish the people closest to me.


I’ve had some bad spells in my life, but this year was one of the worst.


I won’t bore you with the details but I will tell you what I've taken from the last 243 days of my life. This year, I learned a great deal about people, the world and myself.


To Begin.

I now live by this formula.


Acknowledge

Accept

Forgive

and move the fuck on!


You see, life isn't perfect but neither are you and I.

You can’t trust anyone but yourself

You don’t know what can happen tomorrow - what opportunities may arise, or the people that will come in and out of our lives. {Gulp} I learned this the hard way. I had a huge shift in relationships and what I recognized more from these relationships is what I was willing to withstand and tolerate. It’s called boundaries. You see, you have to examine your black box every so often. I lost many dear people in my life and saw the substandard sides of others, my eyes were wide open in unexpected disbelief. I learnt very quick that I had to protect my energy and realized it’s not wrong to remove yourself from situations or the company of people who are draining you.

At the end of the day, you have to trust yourself. I always have and always will trust my instincts, my voice and my beliefs because I never let myself down. While it's important to trust yourself, it's also important to trust your gut! Trusting yourself will help you build up your confidence, make it easier for you to make decisions, and reduce your stress levels. Going forward, I will trust myself 100% to do what is best for me and help guide me the right way.

You always have a choice.

Sure, you may not have any choice or say over what happened in the past. However, you always have a choice in what you think, say, and do from hereon. Basically, from the minute we wake up in the morning to the second we close our eyes to sleep, we have total control of what happens in our day and the decisions we make.


Here it is! When we accept situations in our life, it allows us to move forward, it allows us to let go of the past so you're finally able to be present and live your best life.

I am still learning to accept responsibility for everything in my past experiences, whether it was seemingly within my control or not, but I now look to accept, forgive and create a life with great intention.

We all have a story - what’s yours?

Everyone has a story to tell - you bet your bottom dollar we do! We all get caught up in the game called life. We make stupid choices, we create undefinable patterns and describe ourselves by our past experiences.

The problem is, being “attached” to our story doesn't allow us room to grow and change. You see, YOU have the power to master your story and change your life. So how do we do this? Come from a place of the present. By doing this, your mind is pulled out of the past and into the future. Everyone has their own story to tell but remember you are exactly who you need to be and where you need to be at this moment. It’s important to be genuine, be real and show the good and the bad.


Heal your inner child.


The "little you" - tender, emotional YOU. Your inner child is the innocent part of you and defines your feelings and your emotional needs. We all hurt and reflect back on our past. We examine our past experiences, people we've encountered and situations we've had to handle that shape us today. Internal and external healing is vital for creating a better version of you.


Here are some self healing strategies I have adapted to in the last 243 days.


Acceptance.

Listen more.

Write a letter.

Meditate.

Journal.

Exercise.

Be open.

Communicate.


Practice positive affirmations.


Do you practice affirmations? I write 3 affirmations daily. It's truly the most simplest thing you can do to better yourself and reframe your mind. Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging and negative thoughts. When you repeat them often, and believe in them, you can start to make positive changes. Try it, you'll be pleasantly surprise how this tactic can quickly change your mindset. Here are some of my favorites:


I am beautiful inside and out.

I’m doing a great job with my healing work.

I am worthy of love and forgiveness.

I am exactly where I need to be right now.

I am successful and striving for good things.

I love myself more and more everyday.


Live in faith not fear.

We are living in a world of pandemic, we have been faced with fear in various ways, from the media, to lockdown to being masked and suffering in grief and despair. The pandemic will end. But will the fear?

We all have fears. As we grow older our fears duplicate and worsen. I like to look at fear in the eyes because fear is negative, frightening and crippling. Fear changes our way of thinking and disputes neurological brain waves that are important for a positive mindset. Fear is not an option. When fear grows into faith good things occur. When good things occur we create positive impact, we make better choices and share an incredible story.



Life isn’t perfect. There are many bumps along the way.

Life is really made up of a series of moments. We live a life made up of good and bad decisions and are encountered with many bumps along the way. It's those bumps that determine the outcome of our decisions and the choice of decision influences our life.

We’re on the journey to find out who we really are and what we want in life. Sometimes we have to get lost in order to be found. Sometimes things happen where we need to press pause on the direction or path we're on. Then there are some days I just let everything go and let everything unfold and allow my intuition to guide me.

Stop trying to figure out life.

We have the choices of change but one thing I realize is our journey is our journey and what is destined will be. Detours will sway us in different directions but this is all part of our road map.

To end.

Life has bound us to encounter a fresh set of challenges that will test us, push us to the edge and bring fear and uncertainty into our lives. But, it will also bring so much joy, laughter, love and excitement too. No matter what comes my way, I’m thankful I’m better prepared because of everything I learned this year. Rather than being fearful, I am stronger than ever before and after a real mother-flipper of a year, now I can handle whatever comes my way.


In health and happiness,

Jaclyn Xo





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